Some Thoughts About Grief
After several years of learning about grief, and being reminded of its power recently through a painful experiences, I thought I would share some thoughts about grief with you that I have had.
Here are some things I have learned about grief –
1. It is powerful. More powerful then you so don’t fight it.
2. It must run its course. You can’t make the pain stop and you can’t circumvent it. You must go through it.
3. The duration of grief is undefinable. At first it will remain present for days or a week – a non-stop presence. But then it may get a bit tricky because it will come and go as it pleases.
4. It is exhausting. You will likely have a headache, your chest will ache from the crying, your body will feel like you just ran a marathon. You will walk slower, talk slower, think slower, BE slower because you are so tired from the grief.
5. You won’t think clearly. Your brain will feel foggy. You may catch yourself staring at a wall for an unknown amount of time. Its okay. You’re okay. Grieving won’t last forever even though it feels like it will when you’re in the midst of it.
6. Your motivation will diminish. Since you are so tired and worn out from your grief, doing normal mundane tasks will likely feel like someone just told you to go climb mount everest. The laundry will stack-up, the dishes will sit in the sink, showering may happen less often.
7. Reengaging in “normal” life will take time.
Be nice to yourself and don’t pressure yourself by saying silly things like, “I should be done grieving now. I should really be over this loss by now. I have got to stop being sad.”
By: Lianne Johnson, LPC