by Sam Bearer, PLPC
Group therapy is a great way to help individuals make changes in their lives. There are several aspects of group work that help make these changes possible. The first two I’ve talked about focus on the client’s investment in the group process. The first is for each group member to choose to be radically vulnerable with the other group members. The second is for each member to foster in himself or herself an outlook of unconditional positive regard in which it is safe to share, feel, learn, and empathize within the group setting.
The next piece focuses more on how the group can invest and intervene in the individual member’s life. Following the individual work of being open, the group now has the opportunity to disrupt radically the emotional foundations underlying each member’s coping behaviors that got him or her into therapy. This is one of the most difficult parts of group work, but as is usually the case with therapy, it is essential for change.
Each member must allow the very personal, negative feelings about himself/herself or others to be shared and eventually challenged by the other group members.
These negative feelings are both bound up in and displayed by each person’s style of relating. Almost without fail, these negative feelings have been activated within the first few sessions of group work because of conflicting expectations, styles of relating, radical vulnerability of some members but not others, etc. However, they most likely have not been fully expressed.
This is so difficult for many reasons. The most common roadblock is that the learned responses to emotional stressors, also known as styles of relating or coping patterns, are so ingrained and automatic that slowing the process down into separate phases or component parts can be daunting.
Individuals often identify themselves as inseparable from their comfortable style of relating.
In our next blog, we will conclude this series on why group therapy works.